Hardwired for Comfort – A Hiatus

Is it being lazy and lack of commitment stopping from keeping my new writing habit? Or is it something hardwired in my nervous system?

Timer is ticking.  I am sitting here looking through a slice of building out at Boston Harbor with the sun just rising. Wearing my sunglasses because the the sun is coming right through my window onto the lap top.

As you may have noticed I have not logged a 30 minute writing session for over a week.  I did however log into my program so I kept that part of the habit.  I left off somewhere ranting about commitments. That being said it will provide content for other posts but not for today.

About my Hiatus was it about being lazy,  here it comes lack of commitment, being flat out tired, or just resisting taking action or all of the above?  Perhaps all these share some similar elements or common threads.  As I explore deeper into how I am hardwired and how creating new habits is successful and or struggle.  The month of July could have been better named new habit creation month. I started my yoga streaming class, I transitioned from taking the car to work to riding my bike to work.  Another blog coming about that experience and the danger in biking .  Briefly depending where you live and the path you ride to your destination could be hazardous to life.  More to come another Blog (Biking to work – what I did not expect)

So back to making new habits in month of July.  Up leveling my diet out of necessity due to some food sensitivities.  The bottom line here is about taking consistent action in all these areas.  The easiest habits is the bike riding 2 days a week 6 miles each way.  The habit that I thought would be pretty easy was this one.  Just flip up the lap top enjoy the view of the harbor, pu erh tea brewed by my side and the way I go.  It is Sunday morning before work I am ready to write look forward to it actually.  So what is the element of resistance during the week and doing it everyday just for a few minutes.  I have identified I enjoy it?  So why not do it daily for 30 minutes?  Maybe that is not the right question.  Lets explore the others.  Am I lazy?  Um a bit of self talk but lets check my belief on a scale of 1-10 how I feel about it right now um 4/10.  Lets test another When I am tired and exhausted I can’t set my mind to do anything 10/10 that has been definitely me this past week.  Lets check the resistance:  I have feeling of resistance when laying down a some habits like this that require my attention every day 8/10.  I have to drill into that one for some more specifics.  Getting somewhere around how my nervous systems is hardwired around setting down new habits how some are easier and others more of a struggle.

The nervous system Fight Flight Flee response is very much hard wired to protect us.  If we look at what taking action represents from an cave man perspective taking action every day was a life threatening ordeal.  One did not have a lot resources for the comfort and ease of living today.  The caveman did not have to do battle in a overly crowded grocery market fighting at who is next at the meat and fish counter or over the asparagus and brusselsprouts. No he had to worry if his food source was going to show up and the risk that it could kill him.  Let alone no creature comforts like heat and air conditioning when the weather turns nasty. and certainly no ready made shower or bubble bath to restore tired muscles from the hunt.  Or things like worrying and checking in with all his devices, pages, postings, paying bills, and making sure the pool got cleaned, and the laundry gets done.  All things we take action in our everyday lives however when comes to taking and creating a better lifestyle or work habit it interesting how my cave woman wants throw up her hand and say back off.  Because that is essentially what I am saying to myself.  No I don’t want to do another freaking habit.  I don’t care if it is good for me or my work productivity.  Stop trying to fix what isn’t broken! You are always trying to upend  the comfort zone here with these new habits. AH THERE IT IS THE COMFORT ZONE.  I AM DISRUPTING THE COMFORT ZONE IN MY NERVOUS SYSTEM SOME ACTIONS NEW HABITS ARE A  DISRUPTION  AN EARTHQUAKE TO MY COMFORT. Times up part of the deal is set the timer and stop when the timer says so.

First Day July 10 2017

Ok here I am doing my assignment.  I set the time for  30 minutes and I have no idea what I am going to write about. My goal is write up my landing page.  I don’t even know what a landing page is.  However that being said I need to write for Nikki for web site so I suppose that could be used for both situations.  That being said of course my left eye decides to blow up and blister almost all the way closed but I am not going to let that stop me.

I still don’t know what I am going to write about. Madison shared her bio with me and her class program.  She is really on the move setting up her descriptions and classes. Here I am I can’t even think about who I am or what I offer.  I just committed to write for 30 minutes is time up yet?  No it is only 4 minutes omg 30 minutes is going to be forever.  What am I going to say.  Certainly I had great ideas not to long ago when I was walking around, just before I got up now nothing comes into my head but gibberish. Does this count?

I feel like such a looser….No discipline, no wonder I can’t get myself off the ground.  Okay now stop that it.  Look what you have done since end of January.  You have so many good ideas lets get clear and expand them.  This is a great way to do that.  Just relax and let your ideas populate your head.  Do you want to start with a Bio or Meditation or one of your membership ideas that you would like to do?  Remember you were thinking about all kinds of memberships and how to integrate your fellow coaches into programs and they could also start making money.  Do you want to start there?

Omg 7 minutes it feels like 30… what now what do I want to say. Who am I:

Polly Fletcher, Occupational Therpist:  What does an Occupational Therapist do and how does it relate to coaching practice:  Let’s see:  As an OT of over 30 years I use meditation to show patients suffering with pain how to shift mind focus off of pain to experience moments of relaxation, quite, peace and greater comfort.  I also show patients suffering from injury from falls, medical complications how to regain independence from a dependent situation and or caregivers how to manage loved one suffering from many physical and cognitive losses:

How does this apply to coaching:  OT looks at how a person is physically and cognitively functioning in day to day life usually after some kind of life changing medical complication or injury.  When we look at the role of coaching, the role of o coach is to provide a safe environment for inspired, consistent action to take place that will move a person to towards attaining their goals.  OT’s transition easily into coaching because we are masters at dissecting to the micro step when necessary.  This is valuable in coaching because often projects seem overwhelming and impossible, Changing and adapting / integrating new habits can be tedious and this strength that OT’s have when having to provide a safe, motivating environment for action and change to be accepted.  Knowing what motivates a person, being able to ask the right questions and engage in active listening is essential to connecting to the real desires and challenges a person is experiencing so that they can be receptive and open to modification, change, resources to feel safe and successful to take the smallest step  forward.  Having spent many patient hours overcoming great physical and cognitive obstacles to regain independence is optimal skill for coaching.   (ok 23 minutes)..

Tell me about Meditation practice:  I show people how to clear their and restore their energy through a meditation practice.  I developed incorporating principles and disciplines that I have used in my OT practice and other meditation practice.  I have been offering this program at the West End Library for 3 years and it has really taken off and evolved.  It is one of best attended programs for a branch library for Adults.  I started after completing my first Transformation Coaching Program .  I really didn’t know what I was going to do with it.  I had experience with meditation for pain.  I used this often with my patients to reduce pain and anxiety with disability and inability to move and care for themselves.  Having to adapt to loss of independence and trust and ask for help from caregivers.  So I brought it to community level where I could give back to the community and build a name for myself:  (Ok time up 31 minutes) I feel good.  It went fast.  This is not what expected to write about today.  It helped t pretend to interview myself.  Maybe I could turn this into video.

Polly’s 30 minute a day writing challenge

This is the post excerpt.

This is my 30 minute a day writing challenge.  I am doing this to grow a new habit and discipline around developing content for video, landing pages, funnel, and website.  This is very daunting and overwhelming endeavor.  I can do the coaching part it is this other stuff that really makes me feel like I am in quicksand….I strangled   I thought if I gave myself a challenge to create a new habit inch by inch I would eventually gain clarity, certainty, and confidence around the kind of Coaching Membership sites I want to  promote.  I plan to blog my 30 minute writing experiment daily to see where it takes me and what ideas emerge.

First blog post